Holidays are when high-conflict co-parenting peaks. Your job is simple on paper: confirm who has the kids, when, and where—per the order or agreed plan.
Not legal advice. Verify dates against your decree. Use decree-aware answers in the app, then double-check the signed order.
Templates
Confirm holiday possession
Per the [holiday / odd-even year] schedule, I will have [Child/Children] from [start day/time] to [end day/time]. Pickup/drop-off at [location]. Please confirm you have the same understanding by [date].
Travel notice
During my [dates] possession, we will be in [city/area]. Emergency contact: [phone]. Flight/hotel details if required by our order: [attach]. [Child] can call/text you at [agreed times].
Request a swap
I am requesting a swap: I would take [dates] and you would take [dates] instead. If that works, please confirm in writing by [deadline]. If not, we will keep the written schedule.
Disagreement on the calendar
I read the order as [brief interpretation] for [holiday]. If you read it differently, please reply with the section you rely on by [date] so we can resolve this before [Child] is in the middle.
Weaponized holiday text
Before
“You’re trying to steal Christmas again like always. The kids hate being with you.”
After
“Per the even-year Christmas schedule, possession starts Dec 24 at 6 pm at [location] and ends Dec 26 at 6 pm. Please confirm the handoff location by Dec 20.”
- Decree-aware answers for “what does the order say?”
- Tone Guardian before you send
- Parallel parenting if contact must stay minimal
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