Missed parenting time happens—illness, weather, travel. If your plan allows make-up time, propose it as logistics: when, where, how long—not a guilt trip.
Not legal advice. Whether make-up time is required depends on your order. Verify before insisting.
Templates
Request make-up time
I missed [date/time window] with [Child] due to [brief reason]. I’d like make-up time on [date] from [start]–[end], exchange at [location]. If that doesn’t work, please offer two alternatives by [deadline].
Offer make-up time
You missed [date/window]. I can offer make-up time on [date] from [start]–[end] at [location]. Please confirm by [deadline] or propose two other times that week.
Accept
Confirmed—make-up time for [Child] on [date] from [start]–[end], exchange at [location].
Decline / counter
I can’t do [proposed]. Alternatives: (1) [option] or (2) [option]. Please choose one by [deadline].
Blame → logistics
Before
“You stole my weekend and you always do this—I want double time or I’m calling my lawyer.”
After
“I’d like make-up time for the missed Saturday. I can do next Saturday 10–6 with exchange at [location]. If that doesn’t work, please send two options by Wednesday.”
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